FAMILY VALUES
Tell your children
your family’s values,
or the world will.
Name them.
Frame them.
Live them.
THE METHOD
Your family already has values. You just haven’t named them yet.
Every family lives by something. The way you handle hard days, what you protect, what you forgive — those are values, whether you've written them down or not. The Family Values practice is a structured way to name them, with your family, in language your children can carry.
NAME
Start with you. Before the family conversation, you sit with your own values — what you bring, what you've inherited, what you want to pass on. The Family Values practice starts where every honest practice starts: with the adult doing their own thinking first.
FRAME
Then bring the family in. Choose the words your family wants to live by — 3 to 6 values your children can say out loud, in plain language, in your family’s own voice. Then you make them visible. Painted by your children's hands, framed, hung on the wall where your family lives.
LIVE
This is the magic. Values on the wall don't become wall art — they become how your family talks. Daily rhythms. Catching each other. Calling on them when the day gets hard. The practice doesn't end when the painting dries. That's when it begins.
Most parenting tools talk about values.
This one asks you to reflect on yours, name your family's out loud, and bring them alive together.
Anchored in the ConnectInUs framework: Own your stories. Build your values. Grow together.
THE LADDER
Five ways to build.
From a free quick start you can do tonight to a full guided experience shipped to your home.
Pick the one that fits where you are.
3 minutes. No wrong answers.
FREE
Family Values Quiz
Find out where your family is with its values right now — and leave with the words that sound like you. Three minutes, and you get your own word cloud.
DO IT YOURSELF
$17
Family Values — A Discovery Guide
A 25-page guided workbook that walks your whole family through the complete process — from quiet parent reflection to values on your wall, made by your children's hands. Includes the 90-word values bank, three narrowing-down questions, writing prompts, and a "Keeping Them Alive" section for daily rhythms.
DO IT WITH ME
$125
Family Values Discovery Session
A one-hour guided conversation with Kate. We work through your family's values together using the ConnectInUs framework, and you receive a beautifully formatted PDF within 48 hours.
THE FULL EXPERIENCE
$225
Family Values Discovery Experience
Our most complete offering. A guided session with Kate, your family's values beautifully documented, plus a kit shipped to your home — printed values document, painter's tape, watercolor set, and a handwritten note from Kate.
GIVE THE GIFT
$225
Give the Gift of Family Values
The gift that keeps working long after the wrapping paper is gone. Perfect for new parents, families in transition, a meaningful Mother's Day or Father's Day. You purchase. They receive a beautiful gift certificate to redeem. You're done.
WHY THIS MATTERS
A value your child can say out loud
is a value they can actually live.
I took my three kids to the pool recently.
My middle child, Wren, used to be a strong swimmer, but it had been a while — and he was struggling. A family friend was helping him stay above water. I was watching from the side.
And then my oldest, Collins, noticed her brother needed help. From across the pool, she yelled:
"You can do it, Wren! We can do hard things in this family!"
That's a value we chose together, she painted it with her own hands, and we hung it on the wall of our home. She didn't quote it. She didn't perform it. She used it — to coach her brother, in a moment that mattered, in her own voice, across a pool.
That's the power in this work.
It isn't about putting words on a wall. It's about building a vocabulary your children speak fluently — back to you, back to their siblings, back to themselves on the days when no one is watching.
Most parenting tools talk about values. This one asks you to name them, frame them, and live them — until they become an anchor your children carry, and a vocabulary they can speak in the moments that matter.
FAMILY TESTIMONIALS
The Value of Values
“Making these as a family was a wonderful bonding experience. I was surprised by how well my young kids understood our values and how making this art together sparked meaningful conversations about gratitude, generosity, and justice.”
-Georgia
“Going through a divorce, it’s been really impactful to discuss these as co-parents, and then create them with our children. We made two sets - one for each house. Our kids look for our values now and talk about them in both our homes. The continuity has been impactful to us all.”
-Jim
“Teaching my children the value system I’ve grown to learn and love as a foundation has been one of the most meaningful projects we’ve done together in a long time.”
-Rachelle
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